10 Things To Be Thankful For Today – (5/15/12)

10 Things To Be Thankful For Today:

(I haven’t been feeling well and have just been having a rough couple of days, so I needed a little reminder that God is good, and my life is still pretty wonderful)

1.  My husband loves me, hugs me and takes care of me… and says I’m really not that bad, even though I know I’m being extremely cranky and emotional.

2.  Air conditioning is being installed in the salon today so my clients and I can stay cool now that it’s warming up.

3.  My wonderful family has helped us immensely with making our house beautiful and livable!

4.  My new salon business is thriving!  My regular clients are coming and brand new clients keep scheduling!

5.  I FINALLY found the curtains I wanted for my living room and I am going to hang them today!

6.  I have four awesome pets, who I hope will some day love each other as much as we love them!

7.  It is a gorgeous, warm and sunny day!

8.  I was just asked to do hair for another wedding this summer!  I wish I could do wedding hair every weekend!

9.  My puppy is resting very peacefully in his crate so we can get a few things accomplished without interruption this afternoon.

10.  I have half of a Cake Batter Concrete Mixer from Culver’s in my freezer!!!

Stretched Too Thin

“I feel… thin. Sort of stretched, like… butter scraped over too much bread.”      – Bilbo Baggins (Lord of the Rings)

Right now, I’m feeling pulled in all directions.  There are so many things that I need to be doing and focusing on, that I feel like I’m not doing any of them very well at the moment.  I seem to be completely baffled with how to manage my own salon business, be effectively involved in the family Verizon Wireless Zone business, work on fixing up our house (which, thankfully, is nearing completion), be a loving wife, a good pet-owner, and just go about my daily responsibilities. Let alone, keeping up with my blogs, maintaining friendships, exercising and eating well, etc.

Normally I’m pretty good at multi-tasking, but when the house alone involves 101 things that need to be accomplished every single day (ok, maybe a slight exaggeration, but pretty darn close to the truth), it’s hard to fit anything else in life in!

Don’t get me wrong, I’m really not complaining!  I have some pretty amazing things going on in my life!  I’m so grateful for all these blessings!  It’s just that I haven’t quite figured out how to fit them all into my life in a way that I can do them all well!  I’m not typically one to half-ass anything (I’m quite the perfectionist, for those of you who don’t already know) but I feel like I’ve been doing a lot of that lately, I don’t have the time, energy, or motivation to do much of anything well. I had no idea that buying and fixing up a house would be so much work!  It will totally be worth it all in the end, but we just didn’t anticipate a lot of the work that was involved.

***To prove my point… I’ve been working on this measly little post for over a week and this is my fourth attempt to actually finish it!***

Anyway, in the very near future I think I will need to sit down and assess and prioritize my life and figure out a way to do the important things to the best of my ability.  I have funny feeling that my life will soon take a turn for the better once this house project is completed.  I look forward to more time relaxing with my husband, time for blogging, and time for Zumba, and all the other things that have really been neglected for the last six months.

Just Say NO to Direct TV!!! (they don’t listen, but do it anyway)

Just had the most irritating phone call from DirecTV!!!  They called to offer me a “movers discount” on their service.  The representative insisted that I must pay a fee immediately to “lock-in” this discounted rate for tv, internet and home phone), and it would not be available at a later time.  I told her that I could not make a decision like this without my husband (we do not currently have cable, or home phone, and are happy with our current internet provider) and that I did not have the extra funds available at the moment to even make the payment, due to the fact that I am buying a house tomorrow.  She kept insisting that this is the best rate I will find and that I could be refunded later if I opted not to do it. I kept insisting that I could not make a decision like this on a whim and needed to speak with my husband and do some research to determine if this was a choice we wanted to make, AND kept reminding her that I did not even have the funds available to make the payment.  She continually interrupted me and demanded “Why would you turn down an offer this great” and I once again reminded her of my reasoning.  I told her that I felt like she was bullying me into a decision I was not prepared to make and that her behavior made me even less likely to sign up for their services in the future.  I wanted to hang up on her, but decided to ask to speak to her supervisor instead.  She put me on hold to get him, but them came back twice to try to change my mind.  After waiting for about 15 minutes I finally hung up because she have wasted enough of my phone minutes.  My hands are literally shaking as I type, I am so angry.  What is wrong with sales people that even after they are called out about pressuring, and even called a bully, they can still insist that they aren’t trying to pressure you, they just don’t want you to miss out on a fabulous opportunity.  NO, MEANS NO!!!  Next time, you’re getting the hang up!  No more Mrs. Polite from me!

Top 10 Signs You’re Dating The Wrong Guy

I just read 10 Signs To Know You’re Dating The Wrong Guy by Kandee Johnson (one of my favorite beauty bloggers) and decided it would be fun to write my own version.

Top 10 Signs You’re Dating The Wrong Guy:

10. He can’t stop talking about his ex, who he’s clearly still in love with, even though he states the opposite.

9. He is laid off from his job and spends all of his unemployment check on baseball cards, while you buy his groceries, put gas in his car, and take him out for dinner.

8. He decides to quit his job and travel for three months, leaving you behind.

7. He goes on vacation with YOUR friends, and spends the entire trip hanging out with some girl he met on the beach, while you had to stay home because your couldn’t afford the trip or the time off of work.

6. He promises to break up with the girl he’s dating if you’ll go out with him, or asks you out while he knows you’re seeing another guy.

5. He has sex with another girl while he’s dating you, after promising you he’s willing to save sex for marriage.

4. He is only available to see you after 10 pm, and never out in public.

3. He has two different phone numbers, and you’re only allowed to call his “work number”.

2. He has an ex-wife he never told you about, who may not officially even be an ex yet.

1. He constantly pressures you to do things you are not comfortable with or are morally opposed to, even after your explain the reasons why you will not do them.

I had quite a dramatic dating life prior to marrying my dear husband (although he admittedly gave me a bit of drama as well, before deciding it was time to grow up and settle down, I would like to make it very clear that NONE OF THESE ARE BASED ON HIM).

Some of these are about guys I was in long-term relationships with, some I dated casually, some are guys I was just interested in, and some are based on more than one guy!

The point is, now years later, I can laugh about all the crazy heartbreak I went through.  I know some of these are really no laughing matter, but I’m able to look back and see my own naivety and the terrible choices I made when it came to the guys I dated. At the time, I thought that there was something wrong with me (other than my bad taste in men) but now I’m smart enough to know that nothing on my part (or anyones part) warrants being cheated on, being unknowingly made the cheater, being lied to, being taken advantage of, or taken for granted, or just plain being treated like crap!

If you’re dating someone who doesn’t treat you like you’re the best thing since sliced bread, who doesn’t speak honorably of you to others when you’re not around, who doesn’t respect your morals and the boundaries you set in the relationship, then they don’t love you!  They love themselves and want only what they can get from you and your relationship!

RESPECT YOURSELF, and LOVE YOURSELF enough to wait for the person who is going to honor you, and value you like you deserve!

(MOM, if you’re reading this… THIS is why I never wanted to talk about it after a breakup!!!  Ha ha!)

Prayer of Sir Francis Drake

Disturb us, Lord,when we are to well pleased with ourselves, When our dreams have come true because we dreamed to little, When we arrived safely because we sailed too close to the shore. Disturb us Lord, when with the abundance of things we possess we have lost our thirst for the waters of life: Having fallen in love with life, we have ceased to dream of eternity. And in our vision to build a new earth, we have allowed our vision of the new heaven to dim. Disturb us, Lord, to dare more boldly, to venture on wider seas where storms will show your mastery: Where losing sight of land we shall find the stars. We ask you to push back the horizons of our hopes: And to push into the future in strength, courage, hope, and love.—- Sir Francis Drake (1540-1596)

Intentional Living

Some time ago, I began reading a blog called Makeunder My Life (MML).  It’s about designing and living a life with intention.  Learning to minimize the “clutter” in your life, whether that be material possessions, unfocused dreams and goals, negative attitudes, and sometimes even people.  Anything that keeps you from being the best possible version of yourself.

The following is a quote from Jess Constable of MML that explains what led her to seek a life of intentional living:

My purpose (currently in the form of this site) became clear when I was a college junior in 2006. At that time I was extremely dissatisfied with myself. I sought out happiness and perfection through each bag, shirt, candy bar, and guy in my life. As you can imagine, none of these ill-conceived and largely unconscious methods worked.

Then one day I heard a quote about Michelangelo regarding the David statue. He was asked how he designed such a phenomenal statue out of a piece of stone. Michelangelo said it was easy to carve the statue because he saw the potential within the stone and he simply needed to remove the layers hiding the beauty. Hearing that, my life clicked instantly.

The best Jess I was searching for wasn’t found pretending to be someone else or by buying something new, it was underneath all the layers of “stuff” in my life. I now define “stuff” to be clutter, unloved/unused/unneeded possessions, bad relationships, negative thoughts, you name it – whatever isn’t serving a positive purpose in our lives is hiding our best selves.

 

Last week Jess wrote about having a life intention statement, or a mission statement.  She included a link to the Franklin Covey Mission Statement Builder, which is a tool that in twelve short questions can help you to hone in on what your ultimate goals (mission/intentions) are.

The following statements were created from my responses to the twelve questions.  I will eventually take these concepts and turn them into a more concise and focused mission statement.

1.  I am at my best when I have made a plan, and everything has it’s time and place.

2.  I will try to prevent times when I am disorganized.

3.  I enjoy my work when I can use my creativity and skills to help my clients feel beautiful, and encourage them to see their inner beauty.

4.  I will find enjoyment in my personal life through being creative.

5.  I will find opportunities to use my natural talents and gifts such as arts & crafts, music, organization.

6.  I can do anything I set my mind to. I would like to begin sewing and crafting again and eventually begin selling my crafty wares on Etsy.

7.  My life’s journey is to bring glory to God in everything I do, and to show His love to those around me.

8.  I want to be a person who my husband, my (future) children, my extended family, and my friends will remember as a loyal friend, a loving wife and mother, and a contagiously joyful person.

9.  My most important future contribution to others will be sharing my faith in Jesus Christ with those around me.

10. I will stop procrastinating and start working on:

  • Minimizing my personal possessions, so I will have less distractions, and more time to enjoy the things that are truly meaningful to me.

  • More clearly differentiating between personal time, family time, and work time so that I can more effectively focus on what I need to and be present in the moment.

  • Begin cooking at home more often in order to save money and become more healthy.

11. I will strive to incorporate the following attributes into my life:

  • Growing as a Godly wife

  • Increasing my Biblical knowledge

  • Becoming more creatively inspired and putting it into action

12. I will constantly renew myself by focusing on the four dimensions of my life:

  • Physical: Continue working out regularly, and gradually increase my workout. Get back on track with weight loss!

  • Spiritual: Start going through a daily devotional book with my husband again, spend more time in my personal bible study.

  • Mental: Begin making lists, setting reminders, doing whatever it takes to clear my head and have less things to just remember.

  • Social: Be more aggressive in my friendships, do not always wait for invitations. Do not settle for being alone, even when it is preferred. Remember that the true friendship is worth the effort.

10 Things I Am Thankful For Today 11/01/11

It’s been much too long since I’ve posted a 10 Things I Am Thankful For list and since it is now November 1st and we’re counting down the days to Thanksgiving I figured I’d start the month of with a list!

1.  We SHOULD be closing on our new house sometime in the next 30 days!

2.  We will be able to do just about everything we would like to the house right away.

3.  Sooo many friends and family members have volunteered to help us move and have offered their time, skills, and tools to help us fix up the house. WE WILL DEFINITELY BE HOLDING YOU ALL TOO IT!!!  🙂

4.  We will actually be able to get a Christmas Tree this year, for the first time since we’ve been married!

5.  I started going to Elements Fitness for Women and am super excited about all the new classes that I am taking, especially Zumba.

6.  Dexter is back on tv and we LOVE getting together with a group of friends every week to watch it!

7.  I love my clients and am so thankful for them!  They are what motivate me to actually go to work everyday (ok, so the money helps… but the people are what really make my day).

8.  Noob is LOVING his job at Whitehills Healthcare and we both really love that he is now working first shift.

9.  Our Verizon Wireless Zone store is doing well and Noob is enjoying working there a few days a week.

10.  I’m thankful for reconnecting with old friends, making new friends, and figuring out who my true friends are!